People who swing from one extreme to the other, from being pleasant and charming one moment to being angry and defiant the next often lack emotional resilience and autonomy.
They tend to fuse emotionally both positively and negatively to others, behaving wonderfully when they feel good, and blaming everyone around them when things are not going their way.
Playing the cat-and-mouse dating game can be exhausting.
Whether you’ve just met a guy you like, you’ve been casually dating someone new or you can’t get over your ex, figuring out how to act is anything but easy.
Take your time to get to know him before you start being all about him and his needs.
It’s fine to be intrigued — like you’re on the verge of being interested — but don’t let yourself get totally sold too fast.
She has blogged for CBS Money Watch, Giga OM, and Brazen Careerist."It is always in your favor to be nice; it is rarely advantageous to be passive," Quora user Courtney Bryant wrote recently on the question-and-answer site, adding: "A blend of kindness and assertiveness is a magnificent cocktail." But what happens when you get that recipe wrong, mixing in too much deference for others and not enough hard-headed pursuit of your own goals?
Turns out that’s actually not what dudes want, at least at first.They’re just wired that way — To be clear, this doesn’t mean you should be a bitch or play hard to get or change who you are as a person.All we’re saying is that you shouldn’t fall too hard, too fast.Their sense of self reacts to external circumstances, and their behavior fluctuates according to their unstable sense of self.There can be many reasons for emotional volatility, including genetic influences such as bipolar disorder, parental indulgence that contributes to a lack of impulse control, dietary imbalance, narcissism, or brain trauma from injury or drug use.