Instead, they want a stage to brag about themselves. There is so much dating advice out there that tells you to be yourself, be authentic, and if your date cannot accept you for who you are they are not worth a second date. If you had a bad day at work and complain about your boss or about your coworkers on your date, that is being yourself.Irritated because there is nothing good on the menu you like and you want to make sure they don’t take you back at this restaurant? All of this is “being yourself” but will it get you a second date? Be your self on your dates, not necessarily just “yourself.” If this is your first date with this person and they are already focused on the negatives, criticize you (or anyone), and excessively complain… When they consistently put down their own life, job, and friends they are playing the victim card.Of course, there are those few special moments of fireworks that can make it all worth it, and that can be a source of anxiety for some women.
If you’ve just come out of a long-term relationship and aren’t insisting on something serious, you can perhaps afford to be more laid-back.
If you’re single and nervous about dating (or you hate dating), you’ll find at least one way to enjoy “date night” in these tips!
They’re from psychologist and author Paulette Kouffman Sherman, Ph D.
Make it your goal to become the woman you admire, trust, and respect…and you’ll attract a good man. To enjoy date night, let your relationship evolve naturally. Do you drive yourself crazy when he doesn’t call the next day? If expectations create outcomes, why not expect to have fun?
If you don’t have anyone to date yet, read How to Find a Good Man for You – Blossom. And, here are her tips for singles who are nervous about dating, with a special emphasis on the law of attraction. Be deliberate when you “dig for gold.” One of the best ways to enjoy dating – and life in general – is to look for something in all your dates. You don’t have to marry him, but it’d be good to stay positive! Challenge your negative beliefs about being single and dating. If you’re single and nervous about dating, concentrate on your strengths. If you struggle to make small talk, read 10 Interesting Things to Talk About With Your Girlfriend. Do you try to control every aspect of what he’ll do instead of just letting the relationship unfold? Create a dating context that will serve you no matter what happens.